Struggling to Spice Up Your Relationship? 15 Couples Sex Toy Ideas to Try Tonight

Let's get one thing out of the way: wanting to spice up your relationship doesn't mean something is broken.

It means you're curious. It means you care about keeping your connection alive. And honestly? That's something worth celebrating.

Whether you've been together for six months or sixteen years, it's completely normal for intimacy to ebb and flow. Life gets busy. Routines settle in. And sometimes, the spark just needs a little encouragement to reignite.

That's where couples sex toys come in, not as a fix, but as an invitation to play, explore, and rediscover each other.

Why Intimacy Products Are Actually Great for Connection

There's a common misconception that reaching for a toy means your sex life is lacking. But here's the truth: couples who explore together often report feeling closer, not further apart.

Introducing intimacy products into your relationship opens up conversations you might not have had otherwise. It encourages vulnerability. It invites laughter (yes, sometimes things get a bit giggly, and that's perfectly fine). Most importantly, it shifts the focus from performance to pleasure, for both of you.

Think of toys as tools for connection, not competition. They're here to enhance what you already have, not replace it.

Before You Begin: A Quick Word on Communication

Before diving into the ideas below, take a moment to chat with your partner. You don't need a formal sit-down conversation. A simple "I've been curious about trying something new together, what do you think?" goes a long way.

Here are a few gentle prompts to get started:

• "Is there anything you've been curious about but haven't mentioned?"
• "What sounds fun to you? What feels like a no-go right now?"
• "How can we make sure we're both comfortable as we explore?"

If you'd like more guidance on starting this conversation, our post on how to talk to your partner about introducing sex toys is a helpful read.

Now, let's get to the fun part.

15 Couples Sex Toy Ideas to Try Tonight

1. Start with a Remote-Controlled Vibrating Egg

Remote-controlled toys are a fantastic entry point for couples. One partner wears the toy, while the other controls the vibrations. It's playful, teasing, and puts anticipation at the centre of your experience.

The 10 Speed Remote Vibrating Egg is a brilliant option, it's discreet, powerful, and lets you hand over control (or take it) whenever you're ready.

2. Take Turns Being in Control

Building on the remote idea, make a game of it. Set a timer and alternate who holds the remote every few minutes. The unpredictability adds a layer of excitement that's hard to replicate otherwise.

3. Try a Vibrating Cock Ring Together

Vibrating cock rings are one of the most accessible couples toys out there. Worn at the base of the penis, they provide vibrations that both partners can feel during penetration.

The Screaming O Yoga Ring is a great choice, it's flexible, comfortable, and designed with dual pleasure in mind.

4. Explore Hands-Free Stimulation

Wearable vibrators free up your hands for other things, touching, holding, kissing. They let you stay fully present with your partner while still enjoying consistent stimulation.

5. Bring a Toy into Foreplay

Toys don't have to be reserved for the main event. Using a vibrator during foreplay can build anticipation and help both partners feel more aroused before things progress further.

6. Use a Wall-Mounted Toy for Something Different

If you're looking to explore new positions or add variety without extra effort, a wall-mounted toy like the 3Some Wall Banger Rabbit Vibe offers hands-free stimulation with serious versatility. It sticks securely to smooth surfaces and lets you experiment with angles you might not have tried before.

7. Create a "Yes, No, Maybe" List Together

This isn't a physical toy, but it's a powerful intimacy tool. Sit down together and each write out things you'd like to try, things you're curious about, and things that are off the table. Compare lists and discover new common ground.

8. Introduce Light Bondage Play

If you're both curious, simple restraints like soft cuffs or silk ties can add a sense of trust and vulnerability to your play. Start slow, establish a safe word, and check in with each other throughout.

9. Try a Couples Vibrator Designed for Shared Use

Some vibrators are specifically designed so both partners feel the vibrations simultaneously. These are worn during penetration and often feature dual motors: one internal, one external.

10. Make It a Surprise

If you and your partner have already discussed boundaries, surprising them with a new toy can be thrilling. Leave it on the pillow. Slip it into their bag with a note. Build anticipation throughout the day.

11. Use a Toy During Oral

Adding a small vibrator during oral sex can intensify sensations for the receiving partner. It's a simple addition that can make a familiar act feel brand new.

12. Explore Temperature Play

Some toys can be warmed or cooled before use. Running a glass or stainless steel toy under warm water before introducing it can create a luxurious, spa-like sensation.

13. Set the Scene First

Before reaching for any toy, take time to set the mood. Dim the lights. Light a candle. Put on music you both enjoy. The environment matters just as much as what you're using.

14. Try Something Totally New Together

If you've never used a toy together before, choose something neither of you has tried solo. That way, you're discovering it at the same time: no pressure, no expectations, just shared curiosity.

15. Make Aftercare Part of the Experience

After exploring together, take time to reconnect. Talk about what you enjoyed. Cuddle. Hydrate. This isn't just a nice-to-have: it deepens trust and helps you both feel emotionally safe.

Finding What Works for You

Not every idea on this list will resonate with every couple: and that's completely okay. The goal isn't to tick off all fifteen. It's to find one or two that spark curiosity and start there.

If you're unsure where to begin, remote-controlled toys and vibrating rings tend to be the most approachable for beginners. They're easy to use, non-intimidating, and designed with shared pleasure in mind.

For more guidance on choosing your first toy, our beginner's guide to clitoral stimulators breaks down the differences between suction and vibration: helpful if you're exploring what type of sensation appeals to you.

Your Pace, Your Rules

There's no rush here. Exploring intimacy products together is meant to be enjoyable, not stressful. Go at a pace that feels right for both of you. Communicate openly. And remember: the best experiences come from curiosity, not pressure.

You're already doing something meaningful by being open to trying something new. That openness is the real spark.

Ready to explore? Browse our full collection of intimacy products and find something that feels right for you and your partner.